Millions of people maintain sobriety by following the 12 steps, a program that has helped addicts for eight decades. In the last few years, however, we seem to have added an optional extra step: publicly declaring one’s sobriety on social media.
Instagram has become an integral part of recovery, where many users track and share their progress using different sobriety-related hashtags like #sober, #sobriety, #soberliving, #12steps, and #alcoholicsanonymous. Chief among them is #soberlife, which has transcended its initial use as a convenient social tagging device and become a unifying mantra for all those taking a public approach to getting sober.
A study released by Recovery.org in late July 2015 called “Socially sober” examined 79,000 Instagram posts in the United States and found #soberlife was far and away the most popular way that people tagged their recovery photos. In the course of the analysis, it was mentioned 32,707 times, and a current Instagram search turns up more than 236,000 results.
Kevin Curtis is the president and co-founder of Sober Movement, an online community for struggling and recovering addicts, and saw firsthand the way social media played a role in his own recovery. He spent his four years at San Diego State University “strung out on heroin,” yet somehow graduated on time with a degree in economics.
“I tried to get sober millions of times before I stuck with it,” he said. “Once I had my moment of clarity, I knew I was done, I was finished.” And now, at three and a half years sober, Curtis (pictured below) is paying it forward.
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“Before we started Sober Movement, on my personal page I would show the landmarks I was reaching: 30 days, 60 days, a year, etc. I would flaunt the happiness I found in sobriety to show that I came so far from where I was,” Curtis, 27, told the Kernel.
He and his co-founder, Darren Brewster, a friend from junior high, both struggled with addiction and coincidentally got sober at nearly the exact same time. They originally started Sober Movement as an inspiration page for the two Southern California friends. When they later realized it could be a helpful resource for others, they created an Instagram account. With 21,000 followers and counting, they’re helping people pave the path to recovery, one selfie at a time.
“I thought it would be a cool thing to show people, that there are so many of us out there doing the sobriety thing,” Curtis said.
The Sober Movement’s Instagram features a mixture of their original merchandise—sold to raise money for sober IRL events put on by the nonprofit—and pictures submitted by community members to celebrate their sobriety landmarks. Many of these “shoutouts” feature before-and-after photos to show a former addict’s physical transformation, and others have brief commentary or anecdotes.
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The comment section of each shoutout becomes a mini support group of its own, with people asking the subjects of the photos to share his or her story or impart any advice for successful recovery. A recent shoutout from a 25-year-old named Abby revealed that she was two years clean and sober. But when one commenter admitted that she was trying to get sober herself, Abby was quick to assure her that her process was not without struggle. She wrote: “I went to jail three times then prison and that’s what made me decide to change my life. Start going to meetings and build a good support group of people but it really comes down to if you really want it or not. I had to learn the hard way that I really wanted it.” It might seem daunting, the prospect of publicly declaring a divorce from drugs or alcohol in front of friends, family and employers. What if you relapse? What if that embarrassment is too much to bear? Such is the nature of addiction: Curtis said that in the time between a follower submitting a photo for a shoutout and it actually getting posted, he has received messages from people saying they’ve relapsed. Some have even commented on their own photo to admit that they were back on day one. But, according to Curtis, others will offer words of encouragement to get them back on track—which is exactly what the community is meant to do. Sober communities on Instagram serve another purpose as well—to emphasize the social part of social networking. Many addicts struggle with sobriety when friends and romantic partners are still using drugs or alcohol. This is one of the motivations for Peter Rohde, CEO and founder of dating app Date Me Sober. Just like Curtis, Rohde wanted to create a community for former addicts, but for romantic relationships. He’s based in Denmark, but just like the many U.S.-based sobriety communities, he utilizes the #soberlife hashtag to spread the word about his product and to help a community in constant need of support. Rohde said that whether your recovery is successful or not on the first try, the key is accountability.
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“You are more accountable for your actions and if you post something like ‘I can’t do it anymore,’ you have a a lot of people supporting you. That really helps a lot!” Rohde told the Kernel via email. “People you don’t even know are ready to throw everything on the ground just to help you because the have been on the same journey, had the same problems, etc.”
Curtis isn’t surprised that the rigorous road to sobriety has found its way online. “Times are changing. Social media and the Internet are huge in people’s lives now. It’s a way to connect with people who are doing the same thing. It’s a way to show how far they’ve come, how proud they are,” Curtis said.
“And they should be proud,” he continued. “They’re overcoming something that not everyone can overcome.”
A version of this story first appeared on the Daily Dot on Sept. 16, 2015.
Illustration via Bruno Moraes